| Posted by Colette , Thu, Sep 14, 2006, 16:03:40 | Post Reply | Reviews by Colette | Germany Message Board | Main BigDoggie.net site |
NOTE: Please read this with a smile on your face and a hint of humor in your heart! :-)
My Motto: Life is so mysterious, don't take it too serious!
For those that don't know me on the net, I have been in and out of this business for some time and have seen a lot of changes both positive and negative, and I'm here to address a positive. After reading and hearing so many variations on the definition of the Girl Friend Experience (GFE) that has been defined by both ladies in this industry and the clients that post on the net as being something that I don't actually do nor do I get requests to do, and I soon came to the conclusion that like myself, there were other ladies and clients that didn't fit this mold either. Sadly, the turning point for me was the most common definition that comes from Los Angeles locals for GFE citing that GFE is merely an acronym for a Bare Back Blow Job and since listing BBBJ is illegal to post on the net - GFE became a suitable choice to mislead law enforcement. While GFE doesn't always mean BBBJ in other locations, it is evolving into this as time goes on and as more ladies from Los Angeles travel across the country and train clients into believing that GFE is really BBBJ in disguise. It also has additional meanings that incorporate simply a nice vanilla experience shared between 2 adults that want to feel like they are on a date where the guy gets laid at the end of the night. GFE often includes a massage by either party. And since I don't offer massage in my dates; I had to ask where did I fit in? I'm sweet, sexy, kinky and enjoy sharing the fact that I'm a bit of a kinky lass in a girl-next-door shell, but again, just not the GFE type and the few clients I have agreed to see that were looking for straight up GFE were not the ones I would have booked to start with, and wouldn't see a second time; even if they enjoyed me and I thought they were sweet. Let's face it, GFE isn't for everyone.
This brings us to the Porn Star Experience (PSE), and that it may or may not be an acronym for BBBJ that includes vaginal intercourse without a condom. I soon learned from the boards on the net that it may also mean that the lady will work effortlessly to keep a guy hard and to get him off as many times as possible in the time frame that he has requested of her. In other words, she doesn't lay on the bed like a dish rag,. but instead works like an animal to get this man as many orgasm as he can get out by doing everything and anything possible. Also, the PSE lady often gets client requests to bring a 2nd lady to do a Double PSE show for the men. I had to sigh after hearing/reading this because it too didn't fit my style, as I no longer do the girl-girl stuff, but again, I am still a completely kinky wild child that enjoys other activities as do the clients I see. And none of these acronyms seemed to address what my clients like – Greek or slightly kinky sex in a non-vanilla way.
All this made me wonder, what acronym do I or my clients fit? And how can my clients ask for what they want without getting elaborate on the phone and allowing a lady to avoid being entrap? For myself, and the other ladies and gents that don't fit either of the above, I soon felt compelled to draft this posting. Sooooooo...... after talking to dozens of ladies and reading hundreds of posts about what other menu choices a lady can offer a gentleman other than GFE I coined 2 new experiences: Naughty Vixen Experience (NVE)and Wicked Vixen Experience (WVE) Both NVE and WVE are for those individuals that are slightly kinky and playful and that want something a bit spicier than just a Blow Job (Bare Back or otherwise) from the date. Both NVE and WVE are something a gentleman can ask a lady for, and the ladies can offer gentlemen on their sites.
These 2 experiences aren't for everyone, but at least now there is a new choice for those of us that fall between the lines of wanting a sexy, naughty, wicked experience, and a bit more taboo than a GFE.
Both NVE and WVE have their own definitions and it is something that our industry can enjoy by adding to the ever growing and every changing lists of experiences that the ladies offer.
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Naughty Vixen Experience (NVE) Defined as the following: Sexually dominant male that enjoys a slightly submissive and kinky female to engage in light spankings, role playing, dress up/costumes, sexy lingerie fetishes, shoe/feet fetish, Greek and other such kinky activities without venturing out into the realm of hard-core S&M/B&D/D&S. This experience is for the client that isn't ready to hire a Dungeon based slave-girl or go to the next step of genuine pain. What he is looking for is a lingerie clad lady who is sweet and sexy and willing to submit to him. Many clients are just exploring their dominant side and have realized that they are not the type that falls into the completely dominating world of BDSM for enjoyment.
Kissing is a very intimate and personal choice and each lady is to set her limits with NVE. Kissing is an option that the lady may choose to experience and is not a expected or a demand that is set upon her as it is with GFE, and the gents should respect the fact that not all ladies that engage in NVE will kiss and don't go in expecting this experience without establishing it up front. If kissing is your deal-closer then NVE may not work for you as many ladies who engage in NVE/WVE will only engage in light kissing based on a client to client bases.
What it can include, but not restricted to – again, a lady should list what she won't do on her page to make things clear from the start. Otherwise it would be understood that the following will be expected from the experience:
light to medium spankings, light bondage , dirty/sexy talk, light submission, light kissing or no kissing, role playing, Greek or plug play, dildo play, sexy lingerie, stockings and heels, oral (covered or uncovered – lady's choice), Asian Treat (giving or receiving – again, lady's choice)
NVE always includes lingerie, stockings, and heels. Many GFE/PSE ladies don't wear stockings or sexy lingerie, but with an NVE request the client is guaranteed the lady will arrive in, or bring sexy lingerie for their date and not feel the need to request this. However, gentlemen requesting NVE may also request that the lady arrives bare legged if that is his fetish.
NVE always includes Greek and by requesting NVE, this will eliminate the need for Ladies to state on her site: I Speak Greek or Fluent in Languages, or Fluent in Greek or Greek Goddess Role Playing. And for those gentlemen that want a naughty little lady to ravage in all the ways he desires without worry of being turned down due to his inability to request Greek over the phone in advance, NVE is a winner. By requesting NVE from the start will say up front to the lady that the gent may want to explore Greek play if he so desires. NVE doesn't always have to include Greek, but it is offered in the event that the client so desires it. Just as BBBJ is offered now in GFE, etc.
NVE experience allows the lady to choose whether she will use a condom (highly recommended) and not the client. The use protection should always be respected by parties.
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Wicked Vixen Experience (WVE) WVE is defined as the following: Submissive male that enjoys a dominant controlling lady to engage in light spankings, role playing, body worship, shoe/foot worship and other such kinky activities without completely entering into the hard core realm of S&M/B&D/D&S just yet.
It almost always includes strap-on training/play with this experience. By requesting WVE this will eliminate the need to place on your site Strap-On Training. And for those gentlemen that want a controlling and dominate lady to ravage them in all the ways she desires, including strap-on training, who don't want to worry about being turned down over the phone, simply by requesting WVE it is an option that is open to you if you desire to take advantage of that service. By requesting WVE from the start, it will say up front to the lady that you may desire to explore strap-on play. WVE doesn't always have to include strap-on play, but it is offered in the event that the client so desires it.
What it can include, but not restricted to – again, a lady should list what she won't do on her page to make things clear from the start. Otherwise it would be understood that the following will be expected from the experience:
light to medium spankings, light bondage, dirty talk, light submission, subtle humiliation, light kissing or no kissing, role playing, Greek or plug play. dildo play, sexy lingerie, stockings and heels, oral sex (covered or uncovered – lady's choice), Asian Treat (giving or receiving – again, lady's choice)
WVE experience allows the lady to choose whether she will use a condom (highly recommended) or not and not the client. The use protection should always be respected by parties.
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Ok – I know many that read the boards enjoy reading, responding and improving - so let's have some fun and get creative here and let's create a kinkier experience for those of us that don't fit into the GFE/PSE molds! I look forward to all your responses as, I can only learn from others. Let's get this right on Big Doggie and then take it global!!
Sexy, Submissive
Colette Caine, When Discretion Matters!TM
Related link: Sexy submissive Colette Caine for the perfect NVE
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